When I got married, my wife and I didn’t have much money so I didn’t think it made sense to draft a prenuptial agreement. I had always perceived them to be all about money.

Last year my wife informed me she wanted a divorce, and unfortunately I found myself at a severe disadvantage. We had just moved to a new state in pursuit of her career, and I had slowed down my career goals so that I could provide primary care for our daughter.

I did a little reading today and learned that prenuptial agreements regarding child custody are not recognized or enforced so that evaluations can be made in the best interest of the children. That makes sense, however I do wish that we had a contract regarding the circumstances under which we would move to a new state.

I’m so glad I’m able to spend time with my daughter, but I’m restricted from being her primary caretaker. I thus have ramped up my work schedule but it is very difficult to be effective now that I live in another state because my office and my work is still in my home state.

It was my mistake to trust my soon to be ex-wife, and I just have to remember not to make that mistake again. Furthermore, I wonder what I could have done to prevent this from happening to me. Could a written agreement about our obligations to each other have protected me? I’m not so sure. The greatest danger I found myself in was at risk of losing my relationship with my infant daughter.